There are many ways for human beings to be—as many ways as there are human beings. That’s the special thing about our species: we each get to make our self up uniquely, with far more latitude for expressing individuality than any other species owns.
Just as our fingerprints are unique, so are the characters we craft, ever more definitively throughout our lives. Some patterns and proclivities seem to be innate, as functions of our singular neuronal constitutions, but even more individuating are the unique shaping forces of each person’s environment and the formative events befalling him or her.
Creative self-individuation, however, is our implicit goal as human beings, growing into who we might become or, some would say, becoming who we are essentially, realizing the Self or soul enfolded in us at our birth, which time and cultivation can unfold.